Woman 50y. no desire for sexuality, When her husband wants to have sex with her, she feels as if she is used to satisfy him. She feels that sexuality is not something beautiful, it is like, that one has to be available for the man. She attributes this to the education of her mother. It's a childhood trauma, sexuality is bad, you do not do it. The mother and her sister have always been available for their men, this is a statement of her mother. The grandmother of the patient was raped.
AnalysisCarbon series: childhood trauma
Silver series: men and women are not equal, the cultural aspect
Phase 6: used, victim
Stage 2(-5): 2??? helplessness, one can do nothing about it
Follow upShe has realized that she can decide on her own body whether she wants to have sex or not. Now, „I am the one who determines, not the other, to have sex or not. So I am not the victim, anymore. This way of thinking is completely new, a huge relief. Before the remedy, she even haven’t has the idea to act that way. She had always thought, „what do I do to my husband, if I do not have sex with him, sex has to be made to make the man satisfied“. This deep pain, „to be just used“ and the associated helplessness, this is gone. Before that, there was no appreciation for me, from my partner. It was as if marriage and sexuality were not based on appreciation, it was, that the woman is there to be of use, the man determines what he wants from the woman. Out of this, sexual desire is not possible, at all. “Now I can decide about my body, I do not have to do it - I decide myself”.