Author: Jan Scholten
In this stage they are really starting something. It is the stage of the establishment of a certain project, a certain task. They are just about to cross the threshold, to open the door, to cross the bridge. They have made the decision to have a go at something. The terms associated with this stage are grounding, empowering, founding, forging, establishing.
The official start of the project is made known to the public, like an official statement. It is the stage where the enterprise receives public and official acknowledgement. People enter the organisation. In the olden days it would be the stage of an initiation. Characteristic of this stage is that things often go wrong the moment someone has officially started his chosen task or project. They can become very unsure of themselves, get panicky or have a nervous breakdown just before the start of the job, or the wedding, or the journey etc.
When they have finally started a project they are amazed that it is actually happening, and that there is nobody who is stopping them or saying that they must do it differently. And they are even doing it right! It is much easier than they thought. They might not be able to see all the implications yet, but at least it’s working. They are really surprised: ‘is this all there is to it?’ But the future is still veiled in a kind of mist.
But what will they find at the other side? Should they go on? Isn’t it a bit too dangerous to enter into foreign territory? They start to get unsure, thinking they won’t be able to handle it. They can’t foresee what is going to happen and how it will look in the future. There might be some problems just around the corner that will prove to be too much. They can make mountains out of molehills until they are sure that they won’t be able to cope. That makes them very indecisive. They know what they want but they don’t dare to go there all by themselves. They can’t rely on their talents because they don’t know them well enough; they have never been put to the test yet.
This dilemma may keep them stuck in the initial stage of a project. They don’t really abandon it, but they don’t persevere either. They are always stuck in the beginning of something, always on the point of choosing. They only do things by halves, they don’t go the whole way. We could imagine the situation of someone getting into a boa: one foot is already on board and the other foot is still on land. He wants to start his journey, but he is torn in two. He has to make a choice. You can’t have your cake and eat it.
Watching, just watching, doing nothing.
Dreams: threshold, porch, bridge, key.
Causes: starting a job, marriage, journey.
Abductors, inguinal ligaments.
DD Stage 3: has not started anything officially yet, he is still looking around without obligation. In stage 4 a definite choice has been made, there is a real commitment.
DD Stage 2: is also unsure of himself but he hasn’t made a choice yet. He hasn’t even got the notion that he could do something about this whole situation himself.