Author: Jan Scholten
They feel alone, left alone, neglected, as a child. They can be left alone by their parents in a hospital or with strangers. They often feel like an outsider, neglected by schoolmates, as if something is wrong with them.
At the other hand they feel they have to achieve. They become competitive, seeing everything as a challenge. They become tough, trying to prove themselves. This makes them even more on their own, hiding all feelings and emotions from others.
As a child they were not allowed to have their own will, their own space. Their parents were often very tough, having to survive themselves in a hard world.