Author: Jan Scholten
The main theme is the fusion of marriage and family. They feel that their relationship should fit with their families. It is natural and obvious that they can merge easily. They feel their girlfriend is part of their own family and they are part of the in-laws. When they get a girlfriend they soon introduce them to their family.
It can also be the case of the arranged marriage, that their parents arrange their relationship. In that case acceptance by the family is obvious, without question.
They experience family and relationships as fixed, eternal, something that should not be broken. Marriage is forever, that is taken for granted. They do not see relationships as having an evolution with a beginning, a development, a decline and an end; or as providing a learning opportunity for personal growth. Marriage and friendships are forever, in principle. When they start a relationship they see it as serious, and start thinking about marriage.
The downside of this attitude is that they do not have the idea that one has to do very much towards a making relationship work. They take it for granted. When someone else has problems they feel the direct need to help. They feel very responsible for others, and their family. But the idea that one has to do anything to maintain the relationship, like give their partner flowers or presents now and then, does not come into their mind. A good thing does not have to be proven; it is a given. This gives a slightly dry, colourless aspect to them.
It gives people the power to stand up for themselves, to be straight and stand straight. Back strength and weaknesses are prominent.
Sensation: sharp, cutting, pricking.
Back: spine weakness; scoliosis, kyphosis.