Author:
Maarten van der Meer
Book:
Evolution of analysis
Type:
Case
Chapter:
3-655.35.11
Ceiba pentandra
Remedy code: 3-655.34.11
Boy, almost 8 years old, he has a behavior is a problem, and he is often angry. 'He has a very strong will.' Mother can't handle it; there is a lot of quarreling at home. He is the youngest child, the parents are divorced; when he has to share attention, things go wrong: seeking attention, then he doesn't want to dress himself, keeps saying 'help-help.' When he is alone, he is an exemplary child. At school, there is a problem with spelling; he has a form of dyslexia. He keeps saying 'I don't understand.' He continues to comment, doesn't want to cooperate. Every time, it's a struggle. It has always been like this, but as he grows older, it gets more challenging. As a young child, he cried a lot. Now he is very demanding in his behavior. This behavior is not present at school, and much worth with his father. He is a quite serious boy, he quickly sees problems everywhere. He thinks about everything, keeps an agenda, worries; is this the responsibility? He often acts as if he doesn't hear you, is not interested. Then he starts to whine, to nag, 'eh-eh-eh,' or starts hitting around, and he is strong. Behavior like this happens every day; it starts right after waking up. Usually, he doesn't talk normally, talks whining. Sleeps well, but often wakes up at night; this has been worse in the last month. Sometimes dreams scary around 3-4 am; wants to lie with his mother. One scary dream: in an airplane, can't find the bathroom, then he loses everyone in the family.
At the consultation, he has a whispering voice, he finds the consultation strange and scary, he tells at home. Orange hair, lots of freckles.
Had throat, nose, and ear problems; this improved after tonsillectomy.
During the last weeks, he complains about stomach pain regularly, after waking up. He eats well. School is very busy. A cheerful and lively boy; he has many friends. Can play well and happily, even when alone, often outdoors: cycling, playing with balls.
It was a good pregnancy, he was a lively child, and skittish. Delivery went well, slightly overdue, but quick, during which he broke his collarbone. His voice: it is noticeable that he adjusts his voice, so he talks extra childishly at the consultation. Towards his brothers, he can shout, especially if he thinks they might do something; sometimes he tries to box against his big brother.
Analysis
Silver series: Atmosphere, expression, both are ‘themes’. Communication, understanding and expression in this boy has a lot to do with feelings. This Silver series aspect you can see and find it in the eyes, the way they ‘receive’ all impressions instead of seeing or taking them. Also you can see it in the way of listening to themselves as well and ‘reading’ their thoughts and memories in the place just before them while the consciousness is inside. Experience can help to recognize this reliable Silver series aspects.
Silver series5: Non-verbal communication is prominent in mother and son, voice is used remarkable, sensitiveness to atmosphere: Malvales. Malvaceae features: Voice, dyslexia, exploring the environment, needing few words.
Phase 3: The uncertainty, not understanding everything. This is evident from his behavior; later, it turns out that the parents' divorce has given uncertainty and tension in the family for a long time. Ceiba: Facial and body posture starts an answer or reaction that stops until thinking takes over. SubPhase 4: Convinced of oneself, holding ground, being too rigid or crossing a boundary. A strong will, can be exemplary, finds his position self-evident. Because this characteristic is so strong, it reinforces the belief in his own right, his rich world of ideas, the basis for the anger. So the anger is a result of his sensitivity and the circumstances, not a disturbance.
Stadium 11: Holding back the charge, fixing it. Clinging to a behavior, to a privilege, being the youngest child.
Prescription: Ceiba pentandra C200.
Follow-up
In the next two months, things are going well; there is less quarreling. He lets go a bit earlier if he really wants something, no longer going to the extreme. He has always had trouble with new
clothes; it doesn't fit well or it always tickles (known as Malvales symptom); that is still the case, but now there is less prolonged protest. His behavior is now manageable. Mother and grandmother notice that he is easier.
Now he is drawing during the consultation: a head with curls and a flower (it represents his mother) with a bow around the neck (symbolizing the voice, but this is speculation), and then continues drawing and cutting it out with his mother's key chain. All in all, very creative, and with this, he isolates himself well (what he needs). Talks freely, walks around in the practice room but keeps his attention in his child world.
Still gets out of bed at night, but not awake a few times at night anymore. Stomach pain is the same; but this turns out to be the urge to have a bowel movement. Behavior towards his brothers is better; the sharp edges are gone.
After four months, the behavior is still good. There is no more anger; he feels comfortable. No more nagging and insisting; it is no longer necessary. He is also calmer. Previously, he was hindering himself so much. Stomach complaint is much less. Occasionally has a scary dream, about being chased by a monster. He has always dreamed actively. Non-verbally, he strongly asserts himself during the consultation; voice use is still very expressive. Sensitivity to clothing is less; still with trousers or with two shirts over each other. No more fidgeting and pulling all day, only in the first hour.
Still undergoing speech therapy to learn letters. Quickly teary eyes with bright sunlight, blinking a lot; while talking about it, he starts blinking as if he is in the sun, keeps doing that until I mention it. Emotionally: he once went to his mother and said with tears in his eyes 'I missed you so much,' after his mother was not home the evening before because of her work, upon which mother teared up, and he started crying hard. He makes another drawing here: a big head that fills almost the whole paper, a clown. Forgets eyes, nose, and mouth until his mother points it out while he is lying on his mother's lap again, 'oh, I think I already drew that,' only later does he see that ears should still be added. Apparently, he already fills all that in his mind. Can relax well now, disappear into his own game, but still listens from a distance. At the moment he doesn't understand a word; he asks with his face what it means and shyly falls on his mother's lap.
We still can see Malvales characteristics.