Author: Jan Scholten
‘The family, the cornerstone of society’
Essence: obvious relationships: family ties.
Obvious relationships: family ties
Relationships are a matter of course. Things happen the way they do within a close family, you don’t have to do anything special, your family is just there. Even when the family splits up and goes their different ways, the blood ties will always remain.
The relationship is obvious
The attitude they have towards other relationships is also very matter of course. The communication between them is easy: they don’t have to make any special effort to make the relationship work, they simply have to be there for each other.
A noble image to keep up
They feel they have to keep up an image of a certain nobility. Sankaran (1991) has already pointed out how important reputation and fame is to the Silicium personality. They want to be respected for their achievements and for their appearance: their good name and reputation have to be kept up at all times.
Having a successful family: family image
Besides their own image there is the family image, which is at least as important. The family home usually plays an important role in the first part of their lives. They also make use of the good name of the family to improve their chances later in life. The opportunities seem just to land on their plate without their having to make any special effort.
The master of the family
The father as lord and master of the family is another important theme. These people need the support of a strong father, who tells them how to maintain their position in society and be sure of the respect of their peers. ‘The family as the cornerstone of society’ describes the essence of this theme. A stable family environment can teach a child to become a stable adult in a balanced relationship with the rest of the world. The parents in such a family are always there, as a matter of course.
Stable point within the neighbourhood: home
The parental home is the stable base from where the teenager will start to spread his wings. It is something you can always fall back on, a real haven. The physical structure of the home is also important. It has to be a strong, stable home built of stone, cement and concrete (Silicium) so that it can be there for a very long time.
Unstable group values
The other extreme may be an unstable family home, where there is nothing to fall back on. They miss the sense of security of a safe haven. This same situation may occur later in life if they have no steady home to go back to. Or they may feel insecure because the ley lines around their home make them feel disorientated and unstable.
Not in charge of himself within the group: timid
The instability may show itself in relationships too. There is nothing to build on, no fixed point of reference. They are yielding and easily influenced. They want to find a stable point and they allow themselves to be led by others in the hope of finding this stability. They don’t doubt the other person’s ability to lead the way. They are timid and dare not express themselves within the group in case their image gets damaged. They would rather look for support from their parents or teachers.
They tend to be kind and pleasant and well mannered because they want to be liked. They are so sensitive that they may easily cry when criticised. They can also cry when they receive sympathy, because they take this as a criticism of their own lack of stability.
Rigidity in relationships: stubborn
Their behaviour can also go the other way, where they become extremely stubborn. They feel they have to be able to be themselves no matter what, while they still want to hold on to their position within the group. They feel they shouldn’t have to creep and crawl in order to be part of it. They are so sure of themselves that they always stick to their own opinions. They are not afraid to say publicly what they think and they don’t tolerate much opposition, acting as if they were the leader of the group. This courage can be very challenging to the rest of the group. It can even turn into arrogance.
This stubborn streak, coupled to their perfectionism and precision, can also turn into monomania. Then they become hard and cold, obsessed by trifles and extremely critical. Their clothes may display the same sort of fastidiousness and precision.
Rigidity in relationship: too much tied to the family
If they are the head of the family their rigidity may leave a mark on the whole household. They insist that everybody obeys the rules, leaving little individual freedom to their children and partner. Their insistence on everyone obeying the rules is often the result of their fear that the family image will be damaged if someone steps out of line.
Sure in their family.
Unsure in their family.
Fears: needles, injections, trifles, narrow spaces, not waking up from sleep, failure, exams.
Dreams: crystal, ice, mirrors, clairvoyant, cobwebs, needles, friends, schoolmates, family, teeth.
Mood: refined, delicate, aristocratic, artistic.
Mental: forgetful << exams, absorbed by occupation and reading, monomania < trifles, precise, punctual [crystal], mathematical, perfectionists.
Contacts: sympathetic, clairvoyant, clairsentient.
Causes: loss of parents, family, friends.
Build: thin, tall, fragile, looking old.
Weather: cold !!, blue with cold, Bluish purple nails << cold, cold water, < getting undressed; > heat; < draught !!, < outside.
Perspiration: profuse, foot sweat stinking !!; night sweats.
Time: < 11 am; < full moon; < winter, December.
Desires: egg, salt, warm food, fruit, milk.
Aversion: milk !!, mothers milk !!, salt, meat, broccoli, cauliflower.
Food: < fat, milk !!, broccoli, alcohol, fasting.
Sleep: light, much tossing and turning.
Physical: <<< vaccinations, radiation; > massage, magnetising; < coition; < soap.
Pains: stitching, as of splinters or needles. Sensation as of a hair.
Discharges: thick, yellow, hard, smelling of old cheese, difficult to dislodge.
Inflammations: chronic, obstinate, hard. Abscesses.
Epilepsy, petit mal. Retarded growth.
Headache from occiput, spreading to forehead. Large head.
Slow closure of fontanelles.
Colds, sinusitis. Swelling of glands.
Teeth: caries, crooked, large incisors; < dentition.
Lung complaints, silicosis << miners, cancer.
Vascular diseases. Arteriosclerosis.
Constipation with hard stools which slip back.
Enuresis. Kidney stones.
Arthritis. Large joints. Back pains, scoliosis.
Bones brittle, little elasticity; rickets, exostoses.
Skin thin and delicate, sensitive, cracks; fingertips.
Wounds heal slowly, leaving scars; keloids. Complaints in collagen tissue.
Boils, acne. Eczema, itching, peeling, red, dry; on occiput.
Hair thin, brittle, grey, sticking up at the front. (Geukens, seminar Wageningen).
Nails brittle, fungus, yellow to blackish/brown, ingrowing, with white spots.
DD Silicon series, Stage 10, Argentum, Aurum, Bariums, Fluoratums, Carcinosin, Causticum, Hepar sulphuricum, Lycopodium, Nitricums, Psorinum, Pulsatilla, Staphysagria, Thuja, Tuberculinum, Zincum.
DD Silicium-containing plants: Equisetum, grains and grasses, Triticum, Bamboo, Urtica urens, Medicago.
DD Silica: has certain traits of selfishness and feeling abused. They are afraid of not getting enough, as can be seen in their fear of poverty and thieves. Silicium is more refined, but they are very similar, as the case written below will illustrate. It is quite likely that we have often given Silica in cases where Silicium would have been more appropriate.
DD Carbonicums: the father figure also plays an important role in their life, but In the Carbonicums it is more the father who is the provider of norms and values. In the Siliciums it is the father as the head of the household, the leader of the family (business).
DD Aluminium: Aluminium doubts whether he is in the right relationship: does he belong or doesn’t he? In Silicium the relationship is a matter of course, even if wonders from time to time whether others see it like that too.
DD image: many other remedy also have a theme around self image. But in each case this image is linked to other factors. The Ferrum person wants to have a good image with regard to his work, in the Silver series the image is linked to their artistic creations, the Natriums feel they have to make contact with others before they can feel good. In Silicium the image they present to others is in itself the most important issue, not the fact whether they have to do something first to establish this.
DD houses: the Carbon series is more concerned with rooms and personal space. It is interesting to note that human houses are made of Silicium compounds, whereas animals who carry their house around with them have houses made of (calcium) carbonate. The Iron series is concerned with work space. The Silver series is associated with large buildings such as theatres and concert halls, while the Gold series is associated with even bigger buildings such as large office blocks, banks’ head offices and skyscrapers.