Author: Jan Scholten
Discreet Marriage Partner
Keeping up appearances Egotism
Tough Joy Satisfaction
Embarrassed about love.
Embarrassed about their partner.
Discreetly dealing with jealousy.
Hiding egotism behind a nice facade.
Harmony is only a facade.
The challenge of aesthetics.
Embarrassed about their looks.
Fear of showing the ugly side of things.
Essence: embarrassed about love.
Embarrassed about love
They feel embarrassed about the love they feel for someone. They feel they might make a fool of themselves if they fall in love head over heels. So rather than giving in to these feelings, they hide them, even from their loved one.
Or: they want to be loved, but they are too afraid to ask for it. This desire for acknowledgement is all far too embarrassing.
Embarrassed about their partner.
They feel embarrassed about their partner. It may be that their parents think this boy- or girlfriend is not suitable, not decent enough etc. Or it may be that they had sex before marriage and the whole neighbourhood knows about it and they feel acutely embarrassed. Or perhaps their partner has a different religion or has some mental illness in the family, or any other circumstances that had better remain hidden.
Discreetly dealing with jealousy
They are very discreet in the way they handle any problems within the relationship. Adultery or jealousy should be kept quiet, in case the whole neighbourhood would get to know about it.
Or they are afraid they will lose their partner if they openly admit their adultery.
Egotism hidden behind a nice facade
They are inclined to hide their selfish tendency behind a smooth facade. They only show the good side, but nobody knows who they really are. They avoid anything that could be construed negatively, no vices, no quarrels, no drugs etc. They daren’t get depressed or annoyed in case people might think them selfish.
They tend to gloss things over, carefully choosing their words to avoid the ‘nitty-gritty’.
Their often come from a very prim and proper family, where the harmony was usually only a very thin layer of veneer.
Embarrassed about their looks
Their fear of showing anything that is ugly extends to their own appearance too. They are very ashamed of things like eczema, overweight, menstruation, being pregnant, giving birth, breast feeding. They feel these things are too ‘animal like’ and should remain hidden. They are also worried that their clothes aren’t nice enough, so to avoid any embarrassment they dress very properly and conservatively.
All problems are handled discreetly. If anything needs to be discussed they will do this in an analytical way. They take a hypothetical example and will discuss the pro’s and con’s in general, without ever letting on what it is really all about.
Fears: failure, criticism, opposition, observed, anticipation, heights, poverty, ugliness, dirt.
Dreams: futile efforts, paralysis, marriage, nightmares < lying on back.
Mental: long winded, details.
Mood: uncertain, hasty, impatient, gloomy, indifferent.
Causes: loss of loved ones, friends or family, insults, shame, humiliation.
Weather: warm, < heat, > open air. Hot flushes.
Perspiration: easy < exertion. Stinking.
Time: < 5 am !!.
Desires: sweet !!, liquorice, fruit, fat, fried, spices, sour, cold drinks, alcohol, beer.
Aversion: egg, bread, sour, coffee.
Food: < wheat, alcohol, sauerkraut, meat, coffee.
Sleep: deep; frequent waking; unrefreshed; < sleeping late.
Physical: <- bathing.
Discharges thick and stringy, green/yellow, creamy, stinking of rotten eggs.
Burning !! pains. Full, heavy, pulsating feeling. Pains jumping from one spot to another, or in one single spot. Boring, scraping pains.
Paralysis in infants. Ataxia.
Sinusitis. Enlarged thyroid.
Heart and vascular diseases. Cramps in heart. Varicose veins, heavy legs.
Anaemia. Haemorrhages and haematoma. Palpitations.
Stomach pains, nausea.
Affections of pancreas, diabetes. Flatus.
Cystitis, feeling as if the kidneys were blown up, bursting.
Enlarged prostate; herpes on penis.
Sciatica, Bechterew’s disease.
Skin: infections with yellow pus. Itching.
DD: Silicon series, Iron series, Stage 6 and 16, Calcium sulphuricum, Chininum sulphuricum, Fluoratums.