Author: Jan Scholten
They have had an impulsive start with relationships, falling in love with the first the best to get away from home, or just from being impulsive. They are very passionate and impulsive, getting into the wrong kind of relationships. Then they get disappointed being left alone. They can get other disappointment in life like death of children, or incest earlier in life, or their husband having incest with their child. This all makes them feel they are better off staying alone, being single. But they do it with style and elegance, being friendly to others but keeping themselves solitary, unbound.
Old elegant lady, living for her beautiful garden.
Old grief, from having lost a child, born death, husband was gone.
Abused by stepfather, close brother knew it but did not prevent it.
Blood shame, incest, love between brother and sister, covered up.
Working fro the Red Cross.
Solution: allow love above incest; stand up for love.