Woman, 37; depression, fatigue.
Her marriage is not what she had expected. Her husband spends his time with his hobbies and she has to stay at home with the children. It is obvious that he sits on the couch and has a relaxed time and she runs the household and the children. She feels restricted as a woman, for example she cannot go out with friends when she wants, and that her work as housewife and mother is not much worth. Her mother was very obedient and never dared a reply to her husband. At the beginning of the relationship with her husband, she had fought back, with the feeling she never wanted to have the same partnership like her mother. She is grumpy with her husband, but does not openly argument with him anymore, or doesn't tell him openly what bothers her. If she tries to discuss her needs, he puts it in a way as if she only imagines that there is a problem, as if nothing has happened, everything is fine, end of the story - no discussion. She thinks it would be better to be alone with her kids.
AnalysisMyrtales: dissimilarity between man and woman.
Phase 2:
Onagraceae; minor position as a woman, adapting, subordinate, follows the rules of her husband, belittled and humiliated.
Stage 13: at the beginning she fighting back, but over the time pulling back, grumpy, no open argument anymore, wish to be better alone with her kids.
Follow upThe depression and the fatigue is gone. She has now open arguments with her husband again, she explains him that she can not take this kind of relationship with him any longer, that she wants to have a „real life“ with him. She has decided to work part-time again, and her husband has to stay at home in this time with the children. To make the children ready in the morning is now his job. She made it clear, that he has to help her.