Author: Jan Scholten
They feel used by their relatives, family, husband, wife or friends. They have the impression that they have given too much, much more than they have gotten back. Often they did so for fear of being left alone, of being rejected. They felt only half loved, not really loved. They had the feeling that they were tolerated but not really accepted or loved. This is in contrast to their own feeling that everyone is equal and should be treated equal. Their philosophical and religious considerations help them to transcend their hardships and their feeling of being used by spouse or relatives.