Author: Jan Scholten
Determined Marriage Partner
Tactical Joy Satisfaction
Stubborn in love.
Nostalgic in love.
Determined out of jealousy.
No more faith in love.
Essence: stubbornly holding on to love.
Stubborn in love
Their stubbornness is manifested most clearly in their love life. They have their own ideas about love and are not prepared to change them. They don’t even want to argue about it because they are convinced that they are right. Or they tend to avoid discussions with their partner, knowing they can’t convince them anyway.
Their are very stubborn in their interactions with their loved one. They tend to overwhelm them with their opinions, not giving them a chance to have their say. They are convinced that the other one is is too inexperienced to understand what is right, so there is no point in listening to them.
Nostalgia in love
They feel a sense of nostalgia for true love. This can happen after a particularly wonderful love affair has come to an end through disease or bad luck. Or they feel nostalgia for the sort of love they have imagined in their own mind.
Determined out of jealousy
When they suffer a love disappointment they tend to withdraw into themselves. If it has happened because their partner betrayed them they feel very insulted and jealous and will speak bad about her to others. They don’t want to have anything to do with her anymore, and may even decide to have nothing to do with the opposite sex from then on.
They decide that they won’t ever have another relationship on principle. It only creates problems and there is no point anyway. They have done everything they could and look what happened. What more could they have done for their partner?
Love is not worth the bother.
They tend to theorise in their own peculiar, stubborn way. They often end up as a scientist or inventor. They are usually quite chaotic.
Fears: failure, criticism, opposition, observed, anticipation, heights, poverty, ugliness, dirt.
Dreams: futile efforts, paralysis, marriage, nightmares < lying on back.
Mood: hasty, impatient, gloomy, indifferent.
Causes: loss of loved ones, friends or family, insults, humiliation, shame.
Locality: left !!.
Weather: warm, < heat, > open air; hot flushes.
Perspiration: easy, < exertion; stinking.
Time: < 5 am.
Desires: sweet !!, alcohol, fruit, fat, fried, spices, sour, cold drinks, meat.
Aversion: egg, raw egg !!, bread, sour, oysters.
Food: < sweet, sugar, alcohol, pepper !!, egg.
Sleep: deep; frequent waking; < lying in late; snoring.
Physical: <- bathing.
Discharges are yellow and thick, smelling of rotten eggs.
Burning pains !!. Full, heavy, pulsating feeling.
Infections in orifices such as mouth, ears, nostrils, anus, urethra; with redness, heat and burning.
Inflammation of eyelids, red, burning, glued together.
Heart and vascular diseases. Varicose veins, heavy legs. Haemorrhages, haematoma.
Stomach complaints, burning.
Skin: infections with whitish yellow, sour pus, leaving scars.
DD: Silicon series, ferrum series, Stage 13 and 16, Clematis.
A 45 year old man has many dark red boils on his face, exuding white, thick, sharp and sour smelling pus. The skin has become very irregular and lumpy, with occasional fistula leaving scars. Everything is worse from egg and chocolate.
His eyelids are very red and covered by a gluey substance in the morning. Bright light makes his eyes water. He gets a stitching, pricking sort of pain in his eyes as from needles. The complaints are worse on the left side and worse from cold wind.
He gets stomach pains from spicy food, pepper !! and cheese with cumin. Burning pain in his stomach and behind the sternum, as if he is being cut by knives. Better lying propped up and better from warm milk.
He has had an operation in the past to remove an atrophied kidney. There had been much swelling and long lasting pulsating pains in his kidney because the ducts had been blocked.
His first marriage didn’t last more than 18 months because they were such different types, she was very religious, he was more a sporting type. His second marriage lasted 11 years. She used to go out whenever he was away on business. He stopped having sex with her out of jealousy. She got very angry about this and eventually they got divorced. He is very angry that he has to pay alimony, especially because he had helped to bring up her two children from a previous marriage. He thinks she is an ordinary slut. This sort of people, these frivolous, loose type of women make his hairs stand on end. They acts like magnets towards men, but they have no respect for them. He never wants to have a relationship again. He has decided that he will let a woman into his house for no longer than two hours. But now he has problems getting an erection. As soon as he starts to make love a little voice in his head says: ‘Watch out!’. He is afraid to come out of hiding, to break through the barrier to his heart.
He is rather withdrawn, always has been. He doesn’t like to state his opinions, afraid he will hurt someone. He would rather avoid a conflict than confront someone or point out a mistake, even if he knows he is right. He also keeps himself at a distance because he is so chaotic. There is so much going on inside his mind that he can’t make head or tail of it. Once he started to speak all sorts of things would come tumbling out at once and this would only confuse other people. He does chemical research work.
Perspiration: profuse, < exertion.
Time: > morning, < 5 pm.
Desires: meat !!, sour !!, spices.
Aversion: raw egg !!, soft boiled egg !!, oysters !!, fat, sprouts.
Food: < pepper !!, cheese with cumin, egg, chocolate.
Sleep: occasional sleeplessness << thinking about work and relations; snoring.
The complaints started after his second marriage. This fact, coupled to his jealousy and the impotency because he is afraid to get involved in a new relationship all point to Sulphur.
His rule that no woman is allowed to stay in his house for more than two hours is a typical symptom in this case. He has become fixed in his decision, determined that no one will tempt him out into the open and break the barrier to his heart. He feels cheated because he has to pay alimony, the ‘slut’ has no respect for him at all. All these are gallium themes, and so we get to Gallium sulphuricum.
He shuts himself off (Gallium) from other people because he is so chaotic (Sulphur). He would only make the other person weary (Sulphur) if he spouted the jumble of information that was going round his head (Gallium).
Other Gallium symptoms: stays at a distance, avoids conflict, knows better.
Sulphur symptoms: researcher, eczema, with pus, left side, inflamed eyelids, stomach problems, burning, warm, profuse perspiration < exertion; -> meat, sour, spices; <- egg, oysters, fat; < pepper, egg; snoring.
One month after Gallium sulphuricum 1M he feels much better. His stomach problems are more or less gone and his skin is not so inflamed. He had sinusitis in the meantime. On the emotional level things are much better too, he has no more fear at the thought of a relationship. He has let go of the issue. He had a dream in which he was travelling in a bus, past a ditch full of pigs; the old pigs died and the young ones survived.
I had previously given him Robinia with only moderate results.