A 39-year-old woman is experiencing tension due to divorce issues. Her eyes can reveal a restlessness, an alarm; her demeanor is firm, gentle, yet not vulnerable. They've had an aggressive child for years, so there's tension and noise in the house, which her husband couldn't handle well. Even though the child has become much calmer, her husband still wants to leave.
She has an eczematous skin, especially on her face above her nose, since her youngest child was born, three years ago. It took a while for her periods to return; her hormones were out of whack, and they still aren't. She's also had a stabbing earache on her right side for two years, sometimes waking her up. As a child, she also had a lot of ear problems, and for now the doctor didn't know what to do. The earache can suddenly wake her up in the morning, and she can feel the outside of her ear as well, a stabbing pain, for a few hours. The auricle then feels numb. A few years ago, she had an ear infection. For about two years, she hasn't felt happy; she has felt alone in her marriage. Sigh. They had a business together that was the focus of all her attention. Now they've grown apart, and this summer she was on the verge of being overwrought. Her mind was chaotic; normally she has a lot of overview and structure, but now she felt rushed. Last summer, she had pneumonia twice; she couldn't cough anymore because of the pain. After that, she developed back problems, and therapy didn't help. It felt sore around her shoulder blades, chiropractic care temporarily helped. It still feels like a bruise. Her neck feels stiff, and her left shoulder muscle is stiff. It feels hard. She also gets headaches, as if it's very tight on her head, temporarily. Now she's had a constant headache for two weeks. After the youngest child, she felt like she wasn't herself for a long time because of her skin, and there were no periods. She was too busy and felt rushed. She felt like she wasn't enough for the children, wanting to give everyone attention. She often gets yeast infections; heavy treatments don't help. A sugar-free diet helps somewhat. Her periods aren't bothering her. She sleeps through the night, and she has no dreams.
The pressure: work-wise, it's not too bad, but with the kids, sometimes it's overwhelming, you're alone. Business: all the lousy jobs came her way. She did the paperwork, but she doesn't enjoy it. Her ex took over the business six years ago; they ran it together, renovated the place, and invested a lot of time and money. The business had a very rough start; financially, it was a big investment, but the overriding feeling was, "It's great that we can do this together." But (now) he no longer wants to shoulder the burdens of family. Providing service was her source of joy. She's a "shoulder-in" person. Her ex expects her to carry everything, taking care of the house and family, and getting her own life on track. She doesn't take good care of herself; she doesn't sleep enough, she's a night owl, she does a lot of housework, and has trouble getting up. She no longer knows what she enjoys. She's lost herself. She used to be active, she took on a lot, and she was open-minded.
About her youth: it wasn't so relaxed. Her brother was on drugs, started stealing, and she didn't have the security. Her mother had to manage on her own. From puberty onward, things weren't safe, not even between her parents. Her father was often away for work. In her youth, she was more withdrawn; she was angry, anxious, and her father would yell. As a child, she hoped someone would open their eyes. Her mother paid no attention to her. She felt alone for a long time.
AnalysisLanthanide theme: being on her own (both herself and her mother), owning her own business, being aware of the shadow (aggression at home, also in the family during her childhood, the father was gone, there was no attention, drugs). Reference to
Series 6.
Iron series,
Series 4: She is practical, tackling problems, work is a theme.
Family as a theme.
Ericidae,
Series 64: putting her shoulder to the wheel. Take action, don't whine. Carrying and caring everything.
Phase 6: Father was often away, no attention, now her partner is an issue, the annoying chores in their business are hers.
Phase 7:
Drugs, relationship breakdown, burnout, separation.
Stage 12: Partner conflict, the repetitive nature of care giving, the constant work, and aggression at home.
The "pain ear right" section mentions
Chimaphila umbellata. Reading this section, a bell rang, and the above confirmations were recognized and included in the anamnesis. For now, Q-search gives with search word ‘ear’ and
Series 64 also this remedy as option.
Prescription:
Chimaphila umbellata C200.
Follow-upAfter four weeks, things are going well; she now feels strong and calm. Her skin is also improving. There was no rash in the first few weeks, but only one pimple in the last week; the triangle above the bridge of her nose is the usual spot. Her ear hasn't bothered her anymore. She hadn't had neck pain or headaches in the past few weeks, and she stopped therapy. Before, she felt stressed, sad, and grieving, but now she can flip the switch: "I'm going to get my life back on track." The divorce proceedings are no longer stressful. It's difficult to keep an eye on the future, what's good for the children and herself, and she shouldn't choose emotionally. Her approach for the past few years has been: these are tough years, we're in this together, we've made that connection. The children are also calmer now, since she's feeling better. She sleeps well and dreamless. As a child, she enjoyed dancing and music; she was always active. Now she's a mother, she has friends, and she has plenty to do. She feels less inclined to talk about her situation now; it's old news. She now tells me she had a stillborn child; back then, she could have carried on, thinking, "The blow will come" (but is didn’t). Things continue to go well the following year, and she finds a new partner.