Phases

7 8 Phases: Positions of personalitiesBelongingThe next classification is based on one's position in the group. What position does one take in problematic situations? Does one belong or not, or half belong? Is one accepted by the group?
There are many concepts that express the same: belonging, fitting in, being loved, accepted, appreciated, recognised, acknowledged. Can one be attached, close? Is one connected, close to others, accepted and loved? Underneath is the desire to be good and thus loved and belonging. One needs an external confirmation of being good. It arises from the feeling of being unable to give recognition to oneself. Personalities cannot give recognition to themselves, they need approval from others. Personalities act as a compensation in order to get something. The phases are steps in the overall process of belonging. They are digitally separate states. They describe the ongoing process of different steps, like steps in a staircase.AttachmentGabor Maté describes this issue as attachment. A child needs relationships to survive, he needs to feel attached to his parents. This need for a parent, a protector, is in contrast with the need to be oneself, to be authentic. One wants to be able to be oneself. In the child, the need for attachment, for relationships, is essential for survival. This is linked to the Carbon series, the Series of the child and survival.Periodic systemThe 8 phases correspond to the 8 columns of the second and third rows of the Periodic system. The elements listed in a particular column have a similar mode of action.
The number eight is an important number in philosophy and symbolism. The I Ching has 8 trigrams; each of the 3 lines of the trigram know 2 states, resulting in 2 * 2 * 2 = 8 trigrams. The Periodic system knows 8 columns in the second and third row. Music knows the octave with 8 tones. In Christian teachings, 7 is a sacred number. This corresponds to the octave without the octave break, the zero position.
The correspondence between Phase and Stages is shown in the table blow.Rosa's case continuedIn the case study, the woman has the feeling of being the centre of attention. She has a central position in the family, just like her father. With him she also felt completely herself, completely accepted. These qualities belong to Phase 4. One feels fully accepted and can discuss everything with the group.Themes of the PhasesPhase 1: outsider, stranger, loner, alone, impulsive, naïve.
Phase 2: adapt, give in, passive, wait and see.
Phase 3: loved if nice, pleasing, no boundaries, cannot say no, fake, lack of grounding and position, vertigo, carsick.
Phase 4: loved, appreciated, central, rigid, fixed, secure, success.
Phase 5: loved only when achieving, ambitious, winners, pushing, flushes of heat, explosive.
Phase 6: repressed, neglected, unloved, tolerated, bitter, indignant, used, abused, victim, offensive, disgust.
Phase 7: outsider, stranger, persecuted, rejected, loner, left alone, lying, criminal.
Phase 8: no contact, autism, alone.Phases and StagesPhases and Stages have a great similarity. They express one Stage of a cycle. They both manifest the beginning, success, decline and collapse of a life, a venture, a project, or a kingdom.
The distinction is that there are 18 Stages and only 8 Phases. It is as though a few Stages are skipped. As we progress, we get more and more Stages, as if in the later Series there is more differentiation between the Stages of development.See Appendix 5 for more descriptions of the Phases.