5.2 Phase 2EssencePhase 2 is the situation where they have been accepted as part of a group but it is quite fragile. They still have the feeling that they have to adapt to earn their position. Their place in the group is not straightforward. They have the feeling of having a minor position in the group, which can make them shy and subordinate. They follow the rules of the group in order to get accepted. They have a strong fear that they will not be accepted anymore and will be rejected by the group. Due to this they have the tendency to do too much for the group. The balance between giving and receiving is easily distorted.
A typical situation is that of initiation or inauguration like in student associations. The newcomers are treated as nobodies, they are belittled and ridiculed and sometimes even called foetus. And they have to endure it all in order to become a member of the group. The best strategy is to be passive and not stand out because then one gets more into trouble.
UnsureThey are part of a group but their position is unsure. They feel that they might not be accepted or that they still have to earn their position. They feel that they have to give a lot, or adapt. When that gets too much they can build up a lot of anger which can be expressed or held in. Here we see a quality of “yes or no”. They can go into an acceptance and adaptation, or into a denial and refusal.
They like to be carried as they cannot stand on their own legs very well yet.
No boundariesThey are easily overwhelmed. They easily shrink when confronted by others and their aggression. They cannot say no, cannot keep their boundaries. They easily feel ashamed and embarrassed, thinking things are their fault. They think they are not good enough, incapable, minor and small.
AggressionWhen they have given too much they feel others have used them. They can get irritated when they are treated too much as minors. They feel belittled and humiliated. This can lead to strong aggressive behaviour. Their attitude can go from fawning to aggression. They feel that they have a right to their position in the group. If their position is not right, they can develop strong aggression and rage. They can have the feeling that they really have to fight for their place.
PersonsThey can have weak and passive persons around them. Their mother can be so unsure that she adapts to their father and does not protect them against their father. Or their father can be so passive that he is emotionally not available. Or they have a spouse who does nothing, so that they have the feeling of having an extra child instead of a partner. In all those cases they feel a lack of support and protection.
MindHelpless feeling!!
Powerless.
Overwhelmed.
Passive, letting all things happen without resistance or fighting back. Saying no, to the world, others and especially to oneself.
Sure in their being a stranger. Unsure with strangers.
Adapting, yielding, shy.
Anger, rage from not being accepted.
GeneralKeywords: unsure, timid, shy; adapting, passive; inhibited.
BodyGeneral: flabby, weak, puffy.
DDBeryllium,
Magnesium,
Stage 2.
PlantsHerbs, vines, climbers, creepers.