Author: Jan Scholten
Baryta sulphurica is a remedy which I have prescribed mostly upon the symptom 'dreams that she is laughed at by her partner'.
Small, futile Beauty, grace, harmony
Hiding Love and relationships
The theme then becomes the idea that they are ridiculed by their partner. They feel very insecure in their relationship and their attitude is very dependent. They let the other person take all the decisions while they just follow. They don’t feel able to build up a real relationship and take responsibility for their part in it. This makes the relationship very unequal. The partner usually quite likes this in the beginning, but after a while this dependency becomes irritating. The partner will start to get annoyed and when he shows his irritation he will not meet any opposition. Eventually he will just laugh at such a weakling. And that completes the circle, confirming the original delusion.
A variation on this theme could be that Bar-s feels ridiculed because of their partner. They feel that their partner is a ridiculous person. This might be because she is not beautiful or he is not handsome, but also because (s)he is perhaps handicapped or retarded. They are inclined to choose such a person anyway, because they feel themselves to be so weak too. So if they choose a weak partner there will be less chance of being overwhelmed by them. Another subtle way of doing this is to choose a very small partner.
The next variation might be that they feel that love itself is ridiculous. Feelings of love, closeness etc. make them feel insignificant and worthless. They will start to hide these feelings for fear of being laughed at. In the end they may have suppressed their feelings of love to such an extent that they can’t find them anymore. They have forgotten that they have any such softness and gentleness inside them. Their outward appearance can become very coarse and blunt. Or they may seem very neutral, like someone who keeps himself strictly under control. A situation that could cause this might be a time during puberty when they are being teased and laughed at for falling in love.
A final variation can be that they think they are not beautiful or handsome enough. For instance because of their clothes, or the way they are built. They are afraid that people will laugh at their 'ridiculous' appearance. The only symptom in the repertory that comes near this theme is 'company, unsociable, difficulty making contact'.
The idea that they will be ridiculed by or because of their lover. The rela-tionship is a cause for ridicule.
They feel very insecure in their relationship. They adopt very dependent
behaviour. They also feel that they can’t exert any influence on their relationship or on their partner. They feel that they are at the mercy of the other person. This passive attitude hands over all the power to the other partner, who may start to abuse this. Their attitude becomes more and more servile. Eventually the partner may start to ridicule and despise them.
Another situation can be that of a teenager who feels silly when he or she falls in love. If they get teased and laughed at because of their love affairs they will start to hide or suppress their feelings. After a while they will not be able to access their feelings anymore and will feel very awkward when there is any mention of love. They might also start to behave in a very silly way when they fall in love.
They also feel unsure about their appearance and their clothes. They soon have the feeling that they look ridiculous.
Another expression of the theme might be that their behaviour appears very rough and blunt. This again because of their delusion that feelings are ridiculous, espe-cially feelings of love, harmony and grace. It is better not to show these feelings, in case others will laugh at them. They might even hide their own feelings to such an extent, that they lose all contact with them.
Location: left sided
Time: < 5 am.
Desire: sweet, chocolate.
Dementia. Idiocy. Retarded development. Dwarfishness.
Swelling of glands, cancer of the glands.
Tonsils swollen and inflamed.
Pain in heart, radiating to throat. Arteriosclerosis. Varicose veins.