Author: Jan Scholten
The situation is that of a man who has his life in complete order but his wife is gone, divorced and passed away and a new wife enters his life but he will not change anything in his life, his house and surroundings. HE expects his new wife to adapt to his situation, his Biedermaier furniture and old habits. In the beginning she can fight the situation but gives up after a while, she resigns. Her wishes are counteracted with remarks like “life is not a wish concert”.
There is a need to be seen as a human being and not as a piece of furniture.
Philosophical, desire discussions.
Desire art and beauty; aversion to hard work.
Aversion to be used in a marriage, as in insurance against disease and problems.
Desire to stay free and independent when life becomes.
Aversion: being forced, chronic helping and caring, dependency, being limited.
Desire: to be oneself, playful, free and independent.
Subphase 3: wife adapting and pleasing.
Phase 5: man taking all the space.
Stage 13: nostalgia, old fashioned style, conservative.
Scholten J. Nosy Be provings. Utrecht. 2014.