Woman,
Coming to Costa Rica it took my daughter at least 3 days to compensate the jet leg, little throat pain.
She lives normally a very strict life. Getting up early, getting to bed at 10.30h. In between she works very hard. She is professor for Strafrecht. She is ambitious and loves her work. She also plays cello on a good level.
My daughter became sick in Costa-Rica, she had to return much earlier. My daughter went there with an (to) open heart, she really wanted to make holiday: sun, water, fruits, flowers. She couldn’t understand what there was really happening while staying with their friends. She lost much weight and has until now horrible vertigo and dizziness.
After ten days in Costa Rica: she felt „flau“, (queasy), her energy went out of her body (GE: coming out of her hands and fingers). The food she was eating had no energy. She had no pain, she could sleep well.
She was invited to Costa Rica by her friend (studied together some 15 years ago in Freiburg). They have a good intellectual friendship. This friend visited us as in the last years.
This friend got twins, who are now 2 1/2 years old. He not really wanted children, but his wife did everything to get children. My daughter was really surprised how this women (she knew her before) commands her husband. He always had to run for nothing. My daughter didn’t understand, why her friend let this do.
She recognized that there was not a real family life. She tried to help (cooking, caring for the children etc) but there was never a common dinner or playtime with the family or with the children. Everything was always a real chaos. No daily agenda.
My daughter was polite looking to these for her strange situation.
Everybody seemed to be friendly.
But there was no talking, no culture (as she said).
My daughter learned Spanish long before and did now one year courses to fresh up her Spanish - she was really astonished that her good knowledge in speaking the language didn’t work there. Her friend’s wife speaks only Spanish, so they couldn’t talk English or German not compromising her. But my daughter’s Spanish didn’t really work. She couldn’t understand.
And she had the feeling that she couldn't care for herself, for her well-being anymore. She felt like being disconnected.
She felt depressive.
Menstruation came 10 days earlier.
Nausea on high level, always - until now.
She didn’t wanted to wait, because she didn't wanted to be a burden for her friend. She did not want to go to a doctor there.
My daughter still has nausea, she can*t drive or do anything with concentration. She still feels sleepy. She is eating, but it does not give enough energy to her.
In the osteopathic diagnosis, there are problems in the right inner ear and the whole spinal cord is distorted - without pain.
And - to put the whole story together - she was some kind of being taken/occupied by a very jealous woman.
I gave myself up, my own needs seemed not to be relevant anymore. I have to urinate, but I miss the psychic power to do it, I am hungry, but I can’t eat, I can’t change it. I need all my intellectual power to get up and do pipi, to eat. I’m in a distance to myself: “iIt is, as if 'someone has put off the light, I couldn’t pull myself together (konnte mich nicht aufraffen), I was not in the mood for doing anything. I stood aside of my body. I turned into being a thing, which had to be managed (by my intellect). Nothing is natural or self-evident anymore. Things which are basic routine, did not go anymore, everything died off. Worried that I can’t care for myself, like a dementia. And alike when I had corona, I couldn't pull myself together, specially psychic, no motivation, yes, no motivation, no desire. It could become worse, didn’t want to stay together with others”.
Background: I was adapted to the family, which was already a distancing from myself. I was accepting that I also can live without a daily agenda, I can have breakfast also at nine or ten. I tried to be open for heteronomy, being guided by others (Fremdbestimmung), being guest. It was a real absolute change to my autark life, staying in a complete chaotic family. The warm air helped me to be open, not needing any jackets etc.
I was also disappointed about my Spanish, learning so much, being in a blockade by talking. doubting my intellectual competence: “can I do anything?”
AnalysisSilicon series: probelem with daughter; living in a complete chaotic family.
Moss: chaos; distancing from herself.
Phase 3: adapting, pleasing; vertigo, dizziness.
Follow upShe gave feedback only much later. She became much better. She could return step by step to her old routine. She started to cook again, going to the grocery store etc. Going back to her apartment.
The nausea is gone. She sleeps much better returning to 8 hours per night.
After about 4 weeks after taking the globuli first, she went into the garden and started to clean all up there. She found her way back to earth, is more grounded, literally.
She came also back to her intellectual thinking (perhaps to much). Since around 4 weeks now, she is eating normally again with appetite and enough.
She does not really want to talk about this weakness - she wants to be strong, no weakness anymore.
Little help was Okoubaka.