Author: Jan Scholten
The problem syndrome
Every remedy has his own picture, but all pictures have some things in common. Basic for every problem is a desire, a desire that is not fulfilled or that be lost. In this sense homeopathy has the same view as Buddhism: without desires there wouldn't be any problem. The desire can lead to all kinds of reactions depending on the situation. One can become frustrated, irritable, angry or in a rage even because of the loss of the desired thing. Or one can give up and end in sadness, silence and bitterness.
These kind of symptoms are often very prominent and expressed the first. They are bothering the patient the most and the patients want to get rid of them as soon as possible.
At the same time these kind of asymptotes lack differentiating values. They can be seen as the consequence of every problem. They just express that there is something wrong, that there is a problem that should be attended. In this sense they are signals to the living organism that something has to be done.
These symptoms are of no help in coming to a diagnosis. This is because they lack any differentiating value. Every disease, every remedy has those kind of symptoms. Which ones are more a consequence of how far the development of the disease is that that of the disease itself.
One can see an analogy with the five stages of grief of Kubler Ross. There are all kinds of reactions to a loss, a grief. It depends on the process how far a person is in handling a grief.
1. Denial — As the reality of loss is hard to face, one of the first reactions to follow the loss is Denial. What this means is that the person is trying to shut out the reality or magnitude of his/her situation, and begins to develop a false, preferable reality.
The individual recognizes that denial cannot continue. People can be angry with themselves, or with others, or at a higher power, and especially those who are close to them. It is important to remain detached and nonjudgmental when dealing with a person experiencing anger from grief.
3. Bargaining This involves the hope that the individual can somehow undo or avoid a cause of grief. Usually, the negotiation for an extended life is made with a higher power in exchange for a reformed lifestyle. Other times, they will use anything valuable as a bargaining chip against another human agency to extend or prolong the life they live. Bargaining rarely provides a sustainable solution, especially if it is a matter of life or death.
4. Depression The grieving person begins to understand the certainty of the loss. Things begin to lose meaning, the individual may become silent, refuse visitors and spend much of the time crying and sullen. This process allows the grieving person to disconnect from things of love and affection, possibly in an attempt to avoid further trauma.
5. Acceptance Individuals begin to come to terms with their mortality or inevitable future, or that of a loved one, or other tragic event. This stage varies according to the person's situation. People dying can enter this stage a long time before the people they leave behind, who must pass through their own individual stages of dealing with the grief. This typically comes with a calm, retrospective view for the individual, and a stable mindset.
The 5th stage is a healthy state in a way, not a diseased one.