Abroma augusta

Remedy code: 3-655.36.14.
A 10-year-old boy with long curly hair sits clownishly twisting on his chair, slumped down, alternating with looking at me askance. He has a developmental disorder and behavioral problems. He finds it strange and exciting, but there is also something about him that shows he finds it interesting. As if he has to participate in a play, shyly. His mother is a single woman, small in stature, childishly open-minded, casually dressed, and adorably sloppy. She tries very gently but unsuccessfully to let him speak. She almost constantly radiates a naive joy towards the child, an affection that is very endearing and exuberant. The child goes along with this completely, looking and feeling toward his mother, often from behind the curls that hang over his eyes. He clearly understands what she means, and what she wants to make clear. His attitude shows very directly that he understands her; their communication and interaction are very organic. A happy, fairy-tale atmosphere hangs over the scene, sometimes more reminiscent of Walt Disney than reality. But he doesn't say much. “Almost ten years old.” “I don't know.”
He is in special education, has to work hard to learn to talk, and receives a lot of speech therapy. He has a significant language and speech delay. While his mother talks, he plays with his mouth a lot, making movements, putting his fingers in his mouth, pulling the corners of his mouth out, and sticking out his tongue. He is very sensitive, can perceive a lot, and is very upset when he is too busy or when something unexpected happens. He has a lot of energy and is always on the move. While his mother talks cautiously, she constantly keeps an eye on whether and how the child is reacting. The boy searches for me with his eyes: they pierce me with remarkable intensity. He looks at me with a clear, elusive gaze, challenging. When he is encouraged to say something or answer, he often only stutters slightly and then turns his head away. Sometimes he starts to answer, but then doesn't. His body and mouth motor skills kick in, you can see what he is feeling and often what he wants to say, but then he retreats, turning away from the almost established contact. He touches you with his attention but doesn't grab you. He was very quick to get teeth, but the rest of his development was late. He ended up in medical daycare. There he had to deal with a boy with Spencer syndrome, which caused him to experience a lot of aggression and beatings. Sometimes he would pull his mother's hair out, that's how excited he got when visitors came. He is very focused on his mother; if someone kissed her, he would pull his hair out. While this is being told, he makes grumbling noises, to which his mother responds protectively and with sincere attention. Acting, while showing with his eyes that it is all exaggerated, he says, “tired” and “don't know.” If no one responds to this, he remains in his little world for a moment, after which he softly says, “tired,” “headache.” After a while, he utters his longest sentence: “How long will it take?” He panics easily when he hears noises and can even wake up crying because of them. His senses are so sharp that he knows things before they happen. For example, if the teacher is thinking about something, he says it. Or he knows in advance what he is going to get. He is obsessed with thunderstorms and lightning, and with all emotions. He is drawn to them, fluttering on his legs. Fluttering: that is hitting with his hands and waving. Or he starts playing around or laughing loudly. He also expresses pleasant things with his body. He does not like dogs, as they are too active. When something exciting happens, he becomes tense and bites his fingers. When his mother mentions his food preferences, his eyes light up for a moment, then they turn inward again. He is never ill, although he did have impetigo and worms for a while. Currently, he has a swimmer's eczema. Gradually, he started to talk more on his own, trying to interrupt, mentioning things about food preferences, or something related to questions from a few minutes ago. If he doesn't get a response, he gets angry, says “Let's go home now,” or growls. The situation at home was very tense; there was no harmony in the early years, and his parents separated. He gets along very well with his sisters; they are very sweet to each other. The pregnancy was also a time of tension between his parents. The delivery went well.
He is doing very well at school, is always cheerful, and never shows any anger. When he comes home, he first has a big outburst. He wants to be a postman when he grows up; an acquaintance of his is a postman, and he often imitates him. As a toddler, he was impatient and restless and used a pacifier for a long time. Contact with people: he takes some people into his heart, but not others. How his mother feels has a great influence on his behavior.AnalysisHis attitude and way of making contact are consistent with the Malvales group. Feeling, nonverbal, “grabbing” or avoiding with the eyes, speech is remarkable. The way of making contact, yes or no, the strong avoidance, initiating, and then deflecting are consistent. The Malvales I had prescribed up to that point did not fit this case. The appropriate group seemed to be the Sterculoiceae, because of the emphasis on speech, the 'porcupine behavior,' and the strong affection, three main characteristics that Jan Scholten gives in the presentation on Malvales in Plants X. At the time, Abroma was chosen, as experience with Kola and Chocolate up to that point pointed to very different stages, other, clearly identifiable 'action'.
Prescription: Abroma augusta MK.Follow-upAfter taking it, things are going better. “He has grown in his ability to ‘act’ on stimuli. At a party, playing, in a busy environment, he can now remain calm and participate. Previously, he would scream and cry in such situations. As soon as his mother talks about 'playing and participating', he looks very happy and comes forward to his mother with his attention. He now looks focused, makes contact with his whole face, then with his mouth and eyes together producing a big happy smile. I had not yet experienced this expression, the intensity and emotional contact from him. There is also a little more calmness. He still has to tune in a lot. Mother also continues to 'talk' to him with her face. The mother tends to assume a lot of information is known and to say a lot non-verbally. The fusion of communication as it goes well with her child, and is perhaps necessary. This is an important Malvales characteristic. The 'tuning in' is a feeling of the mother. When she worries, for example in the middle of the night, he gets out of bed and suddenly stands next to her. In my opinion, they are still an organic unit in terms of feelings. This is common in mother-infant contact and is often a striking characteristic within a Malvales family. The child regularly looks at me 'pushily', his attitude saying 'What do you think of that?', apparently overestimating his self-worth. He can 'push away' my attention with self-importance, probably because he knows exactly what he is doing. It's like letting a child win at arm wrestling. It's a bit like 'knowing better', but it's more like withdrawing from responsibility. What he first did with his behavior, holding back, turning away, he now succeeds in doing with his attention: keeping out everything he doesn't want. It is now easier to guide him, also with your attitude; it is as if he is more receptive to your feelings, for example, a neutral feeling about something he finds scary. It is now easier for him to hug someone or give a kiss; he now enjoys it more. Previously, this was never wholehearted and always met with resistance or protest. Meanwhile, he continues to move his face exaggeratedly, squinting his eyes, like a wrestler warming up his muscles. With an expression of “the handsome boy” on his face, he does talk a little, pronouncing the words very unclearly. He now makes eye contact very deliberately, with a calmness, and he gives me the impression that he is seeking appreciation. As if he feels caught out, he plays around a bit, hangs his head forward so that it disappears behind his curls, and shakes his head to ward off the contact that has been made. Even when his mother tells us how well he sleeps and that he can now stay in bed with a book, he looks delighted, and then, with a whiny tone and shaking his head, he makes his mark on the conversation. As a keyword, I write down: Gonzo from the Muppets. He eats a lot, and often seems insatiable, eating something every half hour. The first week after admission, he had a period where he wet and pooped his pants more quickly and was a bit more restless. The next two years go well, both at home and at school. No appointments are made. That time I met him while driving out of the neighborhood; he lives a few streets away from the practice. He didn't show that he recognized me, but he walked down the middle of the street, making theatrical bows and a ballet pirouette as I passed by. Like an avant-garde actor fifty years ago. Only as I passed did I catch a glimpse of his eyes: a clear gaze that had nothing to do with his strange, theatrical behavior. Observing me, unhindered by and separate from his twirling, dancing movements. His body danced while he observed. The detailed description is characteristic of Abroma recognition, acting, distance, in or out of contact.