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Larus argentatus
Year 2025, Issue 9, Article 6CaseAuthor: Anne Wirtz
Man, 40, elbow problems.
He came because of his elbow problem (RSI) his unhappy and discontent feeling and being out of balance. He is divorced a few months ago, but they still are living in the same house. The divorce is felt as "the failure of my life. My life model has fallen apart!" He came to Holland 15 years ago for work, as an engineer, met his wife, married and got 2 children. He had great ambitions when younger.
In his youth he was a lively, happy child. He had one older brother and nice parents, who did their best. He was full of self-confidence, did not accept “No” for an answer and could be very angry if things went another way. The adrenaline was a nice feeling, I jumped into the fight in a reflex. Apart from that he was a sweet boy. In sports he always wanted to win. At about the age of 12, a girlfriend made a remark about his vehemence and after that he paid attention to his behaviour. he was good at school, wanted to prove himself to be the best which was his conviction. He wanted to go for the top, but which top? He learned to see the relativity in life.
His sleep is bad these days, wakes at 3 AM, feels totally alone and 'black thoughts' fall over him. His big fear is to fail as a father. "I want to do everything for my children, but I cannot press too much. I want them to be happy and balanced." He likes to take care and shares a lot of time with them. He is aware of his quality as a care taker and educator.
His student time was not the happiest time. "I did not want to conquer a place in student life, I was a bit afraid for the harshness and choose for the protected situation and travelled between home and university. I was not in balance during that period.
After that I fell the need to travel and fly out and came to Holland. I have a need to have an overview. In my marriage I wanted to be a loving and supportive partner, I wanted to make her happy and have children with her. But it was too much of a restriction for her. She wanted her own company together with a male business partner which was difficult for me especially when they seemed to have a kind of relationship. It was terrible and painful. From that time we live apart in the same house. That is stressful, I want to talk and understand but she does not want to discuss it. I think she is beautiful, practical, creative, fast and not compromising. I am sensitive to criticism, my self criticism is strong, I have a need to be respected and for approval. I wanted to be a 'high flyer' (= genius). My energy depends on my sleep. Dreams I do not remember well. The memory is getting less for names and words. I have this frontal tension in my head because I cannot stop thinking. In the beginning of the divorce I could not fall asleep later I started to wake up too early and immediately the problems about wife and kids came up to my mind.
They offered me a new job within the company. It will be a nice change with a lot of space in a management function. I have a need for security, no limitations and space for my responsibility for the kids, that I can take off when needed in case of sickness.AnalysisDuring the interview his word use stroke me as bird remedies I knew that he could need one but which?
His role pattern as father and partner is very similar to that of many birds who, for 90%, spent their lifetime together with the same mate and share their responsibilities to raise their offspring.
Aves: high flyer, need to travel and fly out; the need to have an overview.
I decided that he, although a high flyer, would not need a bird of prey because he was too sweet and not assertive enough and the need for protection too outspoken.
I chose LARUS ARGENTATUS MK (seagull) out of the possible proven bird-remedies, because the others did not seem to fit. I gave a MK potency.Follow upAfter 3 weeks he feels okay. His sleep is better and he feels more relaxed.
"I get more order in my life. I decided for the new job and I feel glad to make a new start and this one suits my talents more than before. I found 2 mothers with children to share with me and my kids the going out and care taking just like a family, because my own family lives in my home country. I do think of a new relationship sometimes.
I have good friends by whom I can show my emotional side.
I have more fun in life. I like to follow a course in cooking, to go dancing, going out to the cinema or reading at home, do creative things or sports f.e. squash."After 9 weeks he says "I am going the right direction. If stressed I can set my boundaries much easier, it feels good. The last couple of days I wake up too early, if the children are not home I do not feel happy. They are gone for a few days, it is holiday time.
My new job is more academic, it's a nice change. It was nice to clean my old desk and although I threw too many e-mails away I was much more relaxed about making a mistake than I should have thought.
No 'negative' dreams. No black thoughts anymore. Some worries about my ex, she is not well. I would like to help her but she has many reproaches.After 6 months he wrote me that he enjoyed the story very much and that he can see some comparison at a certain level " but I am still learning the slow flight and to land. Once I master this I will be ready to beam through the sky at great speed, at last!"Comment, In this case we did not discuss any physicals,apart from his actual complaints, and they did not seem to have any importance. So I even cannot affirm the insatiable hunger of the seagull seen in the provers and given as a keynote, but his gradual and sure healing proved to me that this was for him the right remedy at the right time.
He came because of his elbow problem (RSI) his unhappy and discontent feeling and being out of balance. He is divorced a few months ago, but they still are living in the same house. The divorce is felt as "the failure of my life. My life model has fallen apart!" He came to Holland 15 years ago for work, as an engineer, met his wife, married and got 2 children. He had great ambitions when younger.
In his youth he was a lively, happy child. He had one older brother and nice parents, who did their best. He was full of self-confidence, did not accept “No” for an answer and could be very angry if things went another way. The adrenaline was a nice feeling, I jumped into the fight in a reflex. Apart from that he was a sweet boy. In sports he always wanted to win. At about the age of 12, a girlfriend made a remark about his vehemence and after that he paid attention to his behaviour. he was good at school, wanted to prove himself to be the best which was his conviction. He wanted to go for the top, but which top? He learned to see the relativity in life.
His sleep is bad these days, wakes at 3 AM, feels totally alone and 'black thoughts' fall over him. His big fear is to fail as a father. "I want to do everything for my children, but I cannot press too much. I want them to be happy and balanced." He likes to take care and shares a lot of time with them. He is aware of his quality as a care taker and educator.
His student time was not the happiest time. "I did not want to conquer a place in student life, I was a bit afraid for the harshness and choose for the protected situation and travelled between home and university. I was not in balance during that period.
After that I fell the need to travel and fly out and came to Holland. I have a need to have an overview. In my marriage I wanted to be a loving and supportive partner, I wanted to make her happy and have children with her. But it was too much of a restriction for her. She wanted her own company together with a male business partner which was difficult for me especially when they seemed to have a kind of relationship. It was terrible and painful. From that time we live apart in the same house. That is stressful, I want to talk and understand but she does not want to discuss it. I think she is beautiful, practical, creative, fast and not compromising. I am sensitive to criticism, my self criticism is strong, I have a need to be respected and for approval. I wanted to be a 'high flyer' (= genius). My energy depends on my sleep. Dreams I do not remember well. The memory is getting less for names and words. I have this frontal tension in my head because I cannot stop thinking. In the beginning of the divorce I could not fall asleep later I started to wake up too early and immediately the problems about wife and kids came up to my mind.
They offered me a new job within the company. It will be a nice change with a lot of space in a management function. I have a need for security, no limitations and space for my responsibility for the kids, that I can take off when needed in case of sickness.AnalysisDuring the interview his word use stroke me as bird remedies I knew that he could need one but which?
His role pattern as father and partner is very similar to that of many birds who, for 90%, spent their lifetime together with the same mate and share their responsibilities to raise their offspring.
Aves: high flyer, need to travel and fly out; the need to have an overview.
I decided that he, although a high flyer, would not need a bird of prey because he was too sweet and not assertive enough and the need for protection too outspoken.
I chose LARUS ARGENTATUS MK (seagull) out of the possible proven bird-remedies, because the others did not seem to fit. I gave a MK potency.Follow upAfter 3 weeks he feels okay. His sleep is better and he feels more relaxed.
"I get more order in my life. I decided for the new job and I feel glad to make a new start and this one suits my talents more than before. I found 2 mothers with children to share with me and my kids the going out and care taking just like a family, because my own family lives in my home country. I do think of a new relationship sometimes.
I have good friends by whom I can show my emotional side.
I have more fun in life. I like to follow a course in cooking, to go dancing, going out to the cinema or reading at home, do creative things or sports f.e. squash."After 9 weeks he says "I am going the right direction. If stressed I can set my boundaries much easier, it feels good. The last couple of days I wake up too early, if the children are not home I do not feel happy. They are gone for a few days, it is holiday time.
My new job is more academic, it's a nice change. It was nice to clean my old desk and although I threw too many e-mails away I was much more relaxed about making a mistake than I should have thought.
No 'negative' dreams. No black thoughts anymore. Some worries about my ex, she is not well. I would like to help her but she has many reproaches.After 6 months he wrote me that he enjoyed the story very much and that he can see some comparison at a certain level " but I am still learning the slow flight and to land. Once I master this I will be ready to beam through the sky at great speed, at last!"Comment, In this case we did not discuss any physicals,apart from his actual complaints, and they did not seem to have any importance. So I even cannot affirm the insatiable hunger of the seagull seen in the provers and given as a keynote, but his gradual and sure healing proved to me that this was for him the right remedy at the right time.