There is a conflict between giving oneself over to lust, the carbon series, or to keep under control and do one’s duty for the community, the Iron series. It is the dilemma of staying normal, the norms of the community, or being as one would like to be, enjoying life and the family.
They have problems in relationships and marriage. They feel they have to give too much to their partner and get little in return. They often feel not really loved and become jealous when their partner is giving attention to other men or women. They can feel harassed by a jealous partner.
Nostalgia for paradise lost.
Desire for perfection.
Delusion having not enough time to return to paradise.
Responsibility alternating with enjoyment.
Working alternating with partying and drugs.
Working alternating with forgetting all responsibilities.