Author: Jan Scholten
They have a great desire to prepare things thoroughly. This thorough preparation is necessary so that they get an insight into all possible future developments. That way they can have an answer ready for any future situation that may arise.
They are very careful, on the watch if it is safe to continue. It is as if they are walking on thin ice. They feel unsure about what is coming and what can happen. As if they are groping around in the dark.
They make all the plans and put forward all the proposals. They have made a start but they doubt whether they are really capable enough. They have only just started. Isn’t it all a bit too much for them, are they really up to it? Will they make it? They really want to succeed. They try to get the knack of the game but they often fail at this stage. This is natural because of their lack of experience.
There is still some doubt about their own abilities and it makes them a bit indecisive. They often wonder: ‘What on earth have I started?’ They consider all sorts of options but don’t really have much faith in any of them. So they remain skeptical and suspicious towards any plans or suggestions. They lack confidence in themselves or their environment.
They are forever preparing without coming to any definite decisions. Their plans are always temporary, they are never good enough, there is always something that needs to be improved. They postpone their plans and the delay often leads to cancellation. They hum and ha and even when they do start something the chances are that they will quit somewhere along the line.
They prefer to avoid the real confrontation, because they have too many doubts about their abilities. They have never put their talents to the test and their hesitation prevents them from ever putting them to the test. They never get further than a trial run.
They tend to ask far too much of themselves. Their expectations are impossible to to live up to, even for an experienced person. With these kinds of expectations the project is doomed to fail even before it starts. They know this deep inside and that is why they see their task as a great mountain looming up in front of them. They are not being realistic about their own talents or about the situation itself. The task is either too ambitious for their limited capabilities, or they have overestimated their talent. It is very difficult for them to make a down to earth start and then see how far they get.
Their attitude alternates between two extremes: one moment they want to make a start and the next moment they want to give up. The balance goes up and down like a yoyo.
They feel very tortured by their inability to decide. They feel as if they will never make it, as if they will always fail.
They are the front runners, the ones who show what is to come. They are the ones that get the ball to the front so it can be kicked into the goal.
The prefix belonging to this stage is ‘pre’ as in preparations, everything that precedes the real action.
Walking on thin ice.
DD Stage 4: has also made a start with his plans, but he hasn’t thought it through yet. They start their task without much preparation.
DD Stage 3: has doubts, but they are doubts about what he will do; they are also changeable but they will change all over the place, changing their plans to something completely different.
Stage 5 has strong doubts whether he will or won’t undertake his chosen task. The changeability is more an alternating state of mind between doing it or not doing it, an alternation between two poles.