Author:
Jan Scholten
Book:
Journal
Type:
Case
Chapter:
2021.02.05
A Rhytidiadelphus remedy
Case by Jan Scholten
Woman, 60, confusion.
She feels stuck, disappointed, discouraged and not good enough. This was increased after she left her marriage of 35 years.
She felt that her only responsibility was to submit to her husband in all things. He was the master and she was the slave. At 4 years married and 2 young children she could not keep up with her husbands demands which caused regular arguments often ending in him slapping her face. At 10 years married she learned that that was not normal, but abuse. She started to learn from counselling to be aware of her emotions. At 26 years married she began to take prescribed homeopathic remedies, and with each different remedy, all kinds of memories came back, but then with emotions, in contrast to the past where she wasn't even aware of her emotions. At 33 years married, after arguing with her husband, she suppressed her anger to prevent her husband becoming angry to their children, but she remained angry with herself for rewarding his tirade. For the next few years she had ovary pains after quarrels and feared it could become cancer. That was the moment she decided to move out. Her children were old enough to take care of themselves. It took her two years more to divorce.
After the divorce it was difficult to live on her own. She couldn't find a regular job, had little income and no home for herself. She did child care, which was good for her as she loves children, but it didn't make a big income. She is very empathic and easy in letting children be as they are. She moved very often, whenever a friend or relative offered her a spare room in their house. She did applications for jobs, or tried to respond to "child-care wanted" but mostly in vain. That increased her feelings of being stuck, disappointed, discouraged and worthless.
Her father was quite domineering and would scold and threaten or punish his childen when they would be disobedient or arguing. She wanted to be nice and calm so not to make her father angry. It became built in her from a young age, to be nice and calm, obedient and suppressed. She felt for a long time as if she did not have emotions, as if she was blank. She could only feel good or bad. And often she felt bad, especially when being criticised by her father and later criticized and belittled by her husband.
When she tells her story she is confused, hesitates a lot with many pauses, as if she doesn't know what to say or doesn't dare to say anything. She is so accustomed to fit herself into other people's ideas and schedules that she has little experience in even considering ideas about herself. Mostly plans were made by her father and husband.
She is very friendly and has many friends that help her with housing and training. She easily feels guilty when she thinks she might have offended others. She feels uncomfortable with her problems as she does not know how to handle them. It is hard for her to notice herself. She has very few rules of her own to protect and care for herself.
She has palpitations when she is stressed.
Analysis
She is a very sensitive woman, but she cannot cope with life in the sense of living on her own and finding a good job and income. This is typical for mosses.
Plant: sensitive, soft; empathic
Moss: no real job; difficult writing applications; good with children.
Phase 2: adapting, totally.
Phase 5: friendly; many friends.
Stage 5: Knows what she would want, but doesn't have the power to go for it.
A Rhytidiadelphus remedy: 3-333.52.05.
Follow up
After the Rhytidiadelphus remedy C30 she feels more adult and responsible. She feels more relaxed instead of guilty. She can see others for who they are and has more self worth. She can figure things out when there are problems. Her palpitations are much less. Her quality of life went from 60 to 75 in 3 months time. She could talk to her father without feeling nervous or critical or judgmental. Previously she was upset by his desire to take and follow what medical doctors were prescribing and advising for both her father and mother. After the Rhytidiadelphus remedy, she is able to relax and allow her dad to live according to his own knowledge. She realized that previously when she was angry or frustrated with herself she had an immediate strong desire for comfort food; after rhytidiadelphus she was able to accept herself and care for herself, no longer falling into the same pattern.
In the past I had prescribed many remedies from the Ranunculaceae, with some palliative results. She had already taken Barium remedies without big result. Also a Beryllium remedy, a Chelidonium remedy, a Glottiphyllum remedy, and an Oxybaphus remedy were without much result.
