Author: Jan Scholten
They have a strong quality of Phase 5, Phosphorus and Nitrogen. They want to have many friends but fear they will lose them.
There is a strong desire to be liked by people, to be seen as friendly and nice. Therefore they have a tendency to be very friendly and to exaggerate the communications. It is as if they are overdoing their friendliness. They like to have many friends, contacts. This comes from the fear and the feeling that they will not be liked. They cannot imagine that other people will like them. And with the least reproach or neglect they see their feeling of not being appreciated confirmed.
In later stages they can also give up the desire of being liked. After many disillusions they feel so confirmed in their idea of not being liked that they think it is useless to try anymore.
The overdoing of friendliness can result in a kind of unreal attitude, a more or less fake personality. Others can see them as a phony, love begotten. This can be reinforced by the tendency of avoiding difficult matters and arguments. They avoid quarrels and arguments for fear that others will not like them.
The family is very important for them. The family is like the base of their life. The family is often in a very good place but they avoid the problems and quarrels and tend to put them under the carpet. Although all the problems are often minor, the buildup of many unspoken issues makes the family grow apart. So their tendency to avoid disagreements can lead to the opposite of what they want to achieve.
The father is often a problematic person. He can be aggressive, absent or weak. He often does not give them as a child the necessary confidence to succeed in life. Or their father has strict rules and morals without content or body, like in orthodox religion or bureaucracy. Due to that they can do a lot, give a lot of care and love but it is as if their actions lack direction. It is as if they do not have a good idea of their purpose in life, as if they walk around in the dark not knowing where to go to.
Due to this they often cannot create their own family in a stable way, they cannot start creating a family or it falls easily too apart.
Because they have a difficult relationship with their father they fall back on their mother. They can have a strong bond with their mother, almost like a friend. It can be described as symbiotic. Their mother can complain about their father, his anger and domineering qualities.
Weather: < wet weather; < cold, - > sun, - > warmth, >< sea.
Desire: chocolate, sweet, alcohol, tobacco, coffee.
Aversion: milk, milk products, cooked vegetables, cabbage, porridge.
Food: > chocolate, < cauliflower.
Head: headache, < noise, < light, > lying, < menses, + nausea, + chilly, coming from neck.
Abdomen: gall bladder inflammation, stones.
Female: menses copious, dysmenorrhoea, premenstrual syndrome with sadness, headache.
Limbs: arthritis, hips, knee, feet, shoulder, hand.
Back: backache, sciatica.
Skin: acne, < before menses.