Overtaxed by quarrels in the family
Author: Christina Ari
Summary: The comparison of the anamnesis of three generations of women from one family suggests a common cause for a profound systemic conflict and leads to a common remedy: Dysprosium Silicicum.
Keywords: parotid carcinoma, Sjörgren syndrome, atopic dermatitis, family dispute, violence, disease, threat, resistance, anger, anger and distrust.
At the age of 44, Katharina had a benign parotitis tumor under her right ear removed. Eight years later a sudden facial paresis revealed a tumor recurrence, this time an acinus cell carcinoma of the right parotid artery. Multiple round foci were found in both lungs, but no further evidence of metastasis. Several operations followed. The tumor mass had to be removed on a large scale, because of the localization several plastic-surgical interventions were necessary in succession. The patient suffered from severe neuralgic scar pain (burning and tensioning) and the face of the once pretty woman was tragically disfigured due to the substance defect and facial paresis.
During the radiation therapy she came to the first consultation. At that time she found her condition unbearable. In addition to the postoperative disturbances, there were also the stressful side effects of radiotherapy. She complained of numbness of the right half of her face down to her neck, as well as loss of voice and taste. Her hearing was diminished on the right side. She suffered from dysphagia and involuntary salivation from the right corner of her mouth as well as from a constant flow of tears from the right eye.
After the end of radio-radiation, the patient refrained from subsequent chemotherapy due to the reduced general condition (massive weight loss). The pulmonary lung foci should only be observed.
For about one year I treated Katharina primarily symptomatically with well-chosen drugs, never ignoring the holistic aspect. Quartz e Kailash encouraged her to face the inevitable, Cupressus sempervirens strengthened her inner trust and Cenchris contortrix took away her panic fear. The radiation damage could be repaired with Radium bromatum and Causticum had an analgesic effect, giving her back her voice and hearing and even allowing her a modest, tender smile.
She got better and better and slowly gained weight again. The remaining complaints were: Massive scar tension, general tension, sleep disturbances, paroxysmal headaches, a watery right eye, combined with occasional blurred vision on both sides. The headaches and sleep disorders were old symptoms that had existed many years before her tumor disease.
Katharina was confident about her recovery, although the MR showed an increase in the size of the pulmonary round foci. She made a clear decision to continue homeopathic treatment and refused chemotherapy, which was recommended to her at the time.
Before I go into the further course of Katharina's treatment, I would like to tell you about my meeting with her daughter Martina and her granddaughter Clara, because only afterwards was it possible for me to recognize a common cause for the profound systemic conflict that was at the root of these various health disorders.
Martina suffers from an autoimmune disease, the Sjörgren syndrome. Since the age of eighteen she has repeatedly had purulent parotitis and relapsing inflammation of the right hand and knee joint. Keratoconjunctivitis sicca, increased sweating, severe juvenile acne and anemia complete the picture. Over the years, at the age of 31 when I met her, she was accompanied by chronic laryngitis and bronchitis. At the first sign of a disease she was always treated with strong antibiotics and antirheumatics. Acne was suppressed by the pill.
It is noticeable that the time of the manifestation of her disease coincides with the appearance of the first benign parotid tumor of the mother. Is there possibly a common cause?
Let us first consider the biographical aspects from the anamnesis of Martina's mother. Her childhood was marked by arguments within the family. Several generations lived together in the same house and this led to conflicts among the family members. Violence occurred, the children were often beaten. Katharina said to me: "Everything was so cramped, nobody found his free space in this house. She was particularly affected by the conflict with her only sister, who, according to her imagination, had always been up to something against her, until a few years ago the contact broke off completely. This fact kept her busy all the time.
Katharina left her family at the age of 17 because everything at home was so stressful. Her partner ran a large business and she became his support. There was never enough time for the two daughters. She found her partnership harmonious until her husband's accident, which left him in a coma for a long time. The question arose regarding the management of the large family business. Since the older daughter had already turned her back on the family, the younger daughter, Martina, was to learn a technical profession in order to follow in her father's footsteps. She was indignant, however, and took a defensive stance, which led to open arguments within the family. In this time the first signs of illness of the two women manifested themselves.
In spite of all this, Martina took her own path and trained as a teacher far away from her family, constantly defending herself, constantly plagued by her chronic illness. In her anamnesis she described life in her family as very stressful. Already as a child she had to defend herself against the rudeness of her mother, she felt subjected to severe constraints, especially during puberty this conflict came to a head. It was like a corset. She and her sister were often beaten, the parents often argued and the father was rude to the mother. There was also no getting along with the sister. She loved to play with other children because it was much more comfortable there than at home. In anger you can quickly break something, Martina said and added: "Fighting makes you sick!
After both daughters had left the family, Katharina was the sole supporting force in the house next to her sick husband, took over the responsibility for the family business and fell totally ill with parotid carcinoma a few years later. Martina, so deeply affected by this tragic circumstance, decided to take care of her parents. She visited her mother daily in hospital and cared for her father. She had to play the strong all the time, it was very difficult for her to help the mother through her suffering, she felt left alone and overwhelmed. At this time Martina became pregnant. The desire pregnancy became a problem pregnancy. From the eighth week onwards there was bleeding and shortly before the birth date an emergency sectio. Martina's fear of a stillbirth was great. She felt totally abandoned. As a result, breastfeeding was not possible.
I met Martina's daughter at the age of two after I had treated her grandmother Katharina for several months, but before I knew her mother's medical history.
Clara, was a quiet, good baby. From birth she had a rough, rough skin structure all over her body, an atopic dermatitis with hardly any itching. She suffered from conjunctivitis, urinary tract infections and severe head sweating.
The child looked quite closed, had an anxious look and was afraid of loud noises. I prescribed Carcinosinum and then Lac Humana which resulted in the child losing most of its anxiety and less head sweat. Afterwards, however, she became more and more ill with infections of the upper airways, such as recurrent otitis on the right and bronchitis. The skin remained poor and she began to bite nails, which could be somewhat improved by Zincum phosphoricum.
She never cried in the nursery, which she had been attending since the age of 14, but was shy of contact from the beginning, although she found herself quite well on her own. When a partnership conflict between her parents became apparent and the conflict with Martina's parents-in-law escalated, Clara's nails were soon joined by morning stomach pains. She developed a peculiar insecurity towards her fellow human beings and quickly felt misunderstood. Both in the nursery and within the family, she felt quickly attacked, even irrelevant. She was afraid of flies, witches and sorcerers who wanted to harm her. She reacted offended to criticism, she did not accept support or assistance from others, she preferred to do everything on her own. At home she quickly became angry and threw objects at herself, screamed and cried. She insulted her mother and spat on her. It was always a question of proving her autonomy. Her inadequacy towards others annoyed her excessively. In the crèche, however, she suppressed her feelings, was content to punish the others with a sharp, evil and offended look, but never went off against others. So Clara carried on the conflict of her mother and grandmother.
Only the exact anamnesis and biographical details from Martina's life closed the circle and enabled me to grasp the essence of the disturbance and gave me the answer to the question as to what essence must underlie this family conflict.
All three women were overwhelmed by the conflict in their families! In an effort to preserve their autonomy, they overtaxed themselves and became ill. Based on the group analysis according to Jan Scholten this points to Dysprosium silicicum.
---With little Clara we experience the image of a suspicious, shy child who feels attacked. On the outside she suppresses her claim to self-determination, but with the familiar mother she lives out her aggressions uninhibitedly. Neurodermatitis on the entire body surface reflects the conflict at the organ level. Clara has already relaxed and opened after the first administration of Dysprosium silicicum M. She is less suspicious of her playmates. In the family she shows less resistance. The skin no longer itches and heals. The previous treatments with Carcinosinum and Zincum phosphoricum worked well, but did not cover the entire spectrum of complaints. Both drugs are also in stage 12!
---For two years I have been allowed to accompany Martina during her illness process. The acute relapses of Sjörgren's syndrome were initially very severe (purulent parotitis, joint inflammation and conjunctivitis). The extremely painful conditions due to the massive swelling of the salivary gland (stinging, throbbing, burning, tensioning, touch-sensitive) always occurred together with laryngitis and loss of voice. The patient was extremely impatient, ill-humoured and aggressive. Since I had started my treatment during a relapse, I did not want to commit myself to lanthanides yet, due to lack of experience with these drugs for acute diseases. Initially Phytolacca and Conium, as well as Staphisagria (both stage 12) proved to be very useful. After the acute phase had subsided, I started prescribing Dysprosium silicicum M, which quickly had a positive effect on their general condition. When the positive effect was confirmed, the relapses could usually be averted in the first approach by dissolving 5 globules of M potency in water, administering them in sips and further potentiating them in the glass if necessary. If she started this procedure too late, the symptoms could be successfully alleviated with Mercurius solubilis C30 (stage 12). The relapses have so far occurred at increasing intervals and also in an attenuated form. Habitual tension and headaches have disappeared. Since the beginning of the homeopathic treatment, the use of antibiotics and antirheumatics could be completely dispensed with. The discontinuation of suppressive medication in autoimmune processes is very important to me, as far as this is possible. After weaning the contraceptive pill, the acne, which once again flared up violently, was quickly calmed down by a few doses of folliculinum adapted to the cycle. Martina's personal well-being and the conscious perception of her own self-reflection within the community become more confident and experience increasingly positive patterns of change.
---Catherine spoke out against chemotherapy. After I had been initiated into the medical history of my granddaughter and daughter and had already confirmed the effect of the medicine on them, I began to treat them with Dysprosium silicicum Lm1, in ascending order up to LM6, followed by a monthly dose of M. The patient reacted to this with an abundant discharge of putrid bronchial secretion over a period of several months. At the same time a very positive development on the part of her general condition was to be observed. For 18 months the quarterly magnetic resonance examination showed a constant lung finding, round foci of unchanged size and number in both lungs. The doctors at the clinic are satisfied and are currently not considering any further therapy. The round foci could also be granulomas, but without a biopsy there is no diagnosis. Katharina feels dazzling, better than ever before in her life. She has no more eye problems and is also relieved of her tensions and headaches. She feels symptom-free and even her facial features seem quite relaxed despite the many scars.
The way to the medicine
Martina's autoimmune disease immediately made me think of a lanthanide. Neurodermatitis and immunodeficiency are also lanthanide-specific issues, as are tension in the body, headaches and eye complaints.
All three people feel threatened in their independence. Even as a child, Katharina felt confined in her free space, Martina even felt like in a corset from which she had to free herself, and Clara is also insecure and feels threatened.
Everyone is overwhelmed by arguments and oppression within the family. Mistrust and defensiveness are the result. They feel quickly attacked and fear to be oppressed. They have to defend themselves and assert themselves against it, which in turn leads to conflict and aggression. The defensive attitude leads to lasting tensions and conflicts. The conflict is repeatedly pre-programmed. Katharina and Martina take their challenges and responsibilities in life excessively seriously. They must not lose control in any situation, because they are constantly on guard against a supposed threat from outside. This overtaxes them excessively and inevitably leads to illness, which puts them extremely painfully in their place. Ultimately they feel betrayed and abandoned.
Resistance against threat, distrust, quarrel and aggression, fight against oppression, want to force something, overstrained by control, fear of destruction. These characteristics refer to stage 12 - dysprosium.
Before I had decided for Dysprosium silicicum, several drugs from stage 12 proved to be quite useful. In particular, the intensity of the diseases could be reduced. Stage 12 also stands for the severity and steadfastness of a disease process up to the development of malignancies.
This violence and destructiveness is reflected in the symptoms of the diseases of Martina and Katharina, as well as in the behaviour of little Clara towards her mother.
Dysprosium is indicated by the tendency to tumour formation, the round foci in the lungs, headaches, eye problems, tension in the neck area and arthritis, as well as the swelling of the inflamed organs with unbearable tension and severe pain, which cannot be improved by any modality and are accompanied by irritability and impatience.
Now one might ask, why wasn't Dysprosium metallicum prescribed? That would be a good fit. Why look for a salt?
It wasn't about the inevitable conflict or the fight itself, it was rather the existential conflict within the family that led to the triggering of severe pathologies in all three. That was the central theme for me. Scholten uses the term "family illness" in connection with silicon.
In fact, at least Katharina and Martina are abused in the family. Katharina was beaten as a child and later beat her own children. The father of the family became ill. Martina and Katharina also fell ill because the family image was threatened. They all became victims within the family.
All three women are selfish in their own way and insist on their own will. But there is also a certain resilience, out of collective compassion. In addition to stubbornness and indignation, we also see shyness and fragility, especially in Clara.
The symptoms of the diseases on the organ level also provide an indication of the corresponding salt. In all three women there are persistent, chronic inflammatory processes in the upper and lower airways (eyes, ears, glands, oral mucosa, larynx, bronchi) with voicelessness. The secretions are thick and yellow. The localization is preferably right, as well as chronic headaches and joint inflammations. The sweating is increased. Scar healing is poor, with keloid formation. There is an extreme reaction to the radiation. The hearing is hypersensitive. The burning and stabbing nature of the pain also corresponds to the quartz component, as does a certain willingness to form tumours.
Dysprosium Silicicum has proven to be a deeply effective drug in all three patients.
If one sees Dysprosium metallicum as a lonely lone fighter who fights for his independence, one recognizes Dysprosium silicicum as a contentious defender of the family image or as someone who feels threatened in his autonomy and becomes ill due to quarrels within the family. Desperate and persistent, he defends his freedom within the family or collectively.
Little Clara shows us a still quite direct way of expressing this medicine. Since she has noticed the quarrel within her family, she behaves in an exaggeratedly shy way and in another she shows an aggressive and stubborn behavior. She is full of mistrust and silences in kindergarten and full of anger and annoyance against her parents at home. She feels quickly attacked and gives the impression that she has to do everything on her own. This little girl is already extremely overwhelmed with the manifestation of her image.
Group analysis according to Jan Scholten
Dysprosium: Dispute; Defender; Attacked; Suspicious
Silicon: Image, family, family image; Father; House, Home; Shy, fragile; obstinate; family illness.
Analysis: Dysprosium silicicum - Dy2(SiO3)3
Overtaxed by quarrels in the family.
Attacked and threatened in their independence by strife in the family.
Overstrained by illness of family members.
Resistance against the family or the collective.
Fights for his freedom and recognition within the family or the collective.
Personality development is threatened.
Outsider image, defends his image.
Aggressive, stubborn image.
Defends the image of his family.
Arrogance out of insecurity. Exaggerated image.
Overplay shyness and insecurity.
The systemic aspect in connection with these three medical histories, within the same family, must of course not be ignored. Successful treatment with the appropriate medication can help to deactivate so-called gene blockades and thus support stabilization and regeneration in the system.
Year 2020, Issue 4, Article 7Author: Christina Ari